Accepting The Inadequacies

The other day I was having a conversation with my friend about the lack of experiences we’ve had in regards to dating and sexual intimacy. We found ourselves feeling largely inadequate in comparison to some of our girlfriends who’ve been romping around in beds with boys and men for years! I offered that when it comes down to the nitty gritty of it most people don’t know what the hell they’re doing because it’s always going to be new! Consider this, when you enter into a new position (not sexually y’all! GET YA MIND RIGHT!) two people come together as complete strangers, they don’t know shit about one another so they don’t know what one another likes or dislikes so essence everyone is at some point inadequate. The point is this, if you are like myself and my girlfriend don’t beat yourself up for your lack of experience, there is someone out there that’s going to relish in your innocence. Trust me I know, I’ve had one be hella excited about it and aside from that I’ve never had a man bash me for my naivety. So when in doubt just talk it out, I generally explain myself away from the jump to give my suitor a better understanding of who I am and where I’m coming from. You can do the same, honesty can be a good thing and if he or she flakes the bump them!!

Culture of Sexting Frien-enemies

When did we become this culture of sexting frien-enemies? Like grown people, I’m talking late twenties and up don’t have real communication with the opposite sex anymore it’s all text message conversations and rendezvous for sex but no intimacy, no courtship, no respectability, no dates, no breaking of bread, no nothing! And I’ll be honest with you I’ve been guilty of this foolishness too! So I’m wondering what fuck happened to our society? I posed the question via our @MoreBougieThanYou on Instagram a few weeks back wondering if this shit was the new normal, that’s what the majority of my friends both male and female are telling me. The “new adults” living in this day and age of the got to have everything now era have seemingly lost site of the virtue of getting to know someone new and appreciating their nuances with care and patience, its like everyone is in such a damn hurry to move on to the next damn step that we rush into relationships half dressed, shirts on but no shoes, bras but no panties and so on…you get the point. I find it hard to believe that we’re all so busy that we can’t slow down long enough to stop and smell the roses. I’m feeling like people are just too lazy to tell the damn truth! If you’re not interested then what’s the harm in letting someone know that so that he or she can move on stop the sexting frien-enemy bullshit.

And the gift that is Amanda Seales!!!!