Bougie Shit: Ep 76

Girl. We dig DEEP into the Potomac drama, including why our girl Gizelle is coming across as such a hater this season. It’s disturbing.

Even though Monique gets on our nerves in general, we find some compassion for her miscarriage and her marriage. In discussing Monique’s identity as a wife, ready for her spotlight, we share some excerpts from the Harvard Business Review Article entitled, “Marry someone who supports your career — or don’t get married.”

Finally, we decide whether Jen or Tami is the bigger snake. We land squarely on Tami, but it’s close.


Paisley is a sap – she binged Love Is ____ and can’t wait for SDV to catch up. And for a third week, Paisley is utterly obsessed with the emotional rollercoaster of “Pose.”

SDV loves something on the Shade Room (who can be bothered to scroll through all those posts), and shocks with a second YAS for Power



Bougie Shit: Episode 72

So yeah we know it’s been a while since we’ve last spoken. We’re not going to lie to you and make up some sob story…truth is we’re out here in these Soundcloud, iTunes, Twitter and Instagram streets. You can follow us via all of those avenues or whatever you so chose either way stay tuned!!

Jumping into the shit…last week aka the end of April,  this country wrapped up a whole bunch of shit in a funky ass bow that has a lot of you niggas mad! Sorry but not sorry about everyone’s favorite t.v dad, at 81 finally facing imprisonment after years of being a prick towards women.

Let us not forget all the antics of Kanye West which became Ye vs. the people, the TMZ incident and the CNN panel discussing the recklessness of his most recent commentary and a lengthy interview with The Breakfast Club’s own Charlamagne The God.

We even had Kelis telling her story, breaking her long term silence regarding her abusive relationship with Nas.

The audacity of the ignoramuses are out here cape’n for the most fuck shit is absolutely sad and disappointing there’s no getting around wrong and we both need men and women to get with the fucking program! Sexual intimidation, sexual assault, abuse of any kind , and reckless platform usage (inaccurate recollections of history) = WRONG doing people. How much more do the naysayers need before they grasp the understanding that changes need to be made.

Moral of last weeks chain of events seems to be that following people blindly is reckless, look before you leap friends.


Until next time ta-ta for now…

Bougie Shit: Episode 42

The Bachelorette is Black, and one of her suitors is racist – Surprise, Surprise. We unpack that, along with a bit of colorism.

This week’s YAS is for Dapper Dan. I expound on the blog. SDV had a pretty amazing weekend, which she shares on the gram.

Audience Poll: Do yall agree that Gizelle from Housewives of Potomac and Gina from Housewives of Melbourne give the same thing – drag? Let us know below.

Dear Gucci: Run Dan His Money

I am SICK of appropriation. I’m gonna walk you through a journey of podcasts, articles, and other receipts… follow me. Gucci’s Alessandro Michele ripped off Dapper Dan’s Harlem creations of old for a new show sans credit, and most importantly sans COIN. In the Invite Only episode, I alluded to Gucci’s antics, performing blackness, but they showed their whole asses on this one.

Dapper Dan is one of the designers profiled in “Fresh Dressed,” a documentary about hip hop’s influence on fashion… that is CURRENTLY ON NETFLIX… so either the Gucci creatives stole it from there OR could have easily accessed the same information I did and given proper credit. Dapper Dan, an icon in his own right, used counterfeit luxury branded fabric (ie Gucci, Louis Vuitton, etc.) to create 80s street fashions. He was ultimately put out of business when Gucci and other brands sued him to the high heavens for infringing upon their marks. Fast forward to 2017, and they’re stealing from him. Aint that a bitch.  Gucci finally copped to stealing the fashions, but under the guise of “paying homage.” I assure you Dan would prefer just payment. The part that really wears me out is Gucci was clocked on this shit repeatedly (see this November Fashionista Article. and this April NYT article calling their “soul” campaign “Diversity Drag”)  but they just HAD to keep pushing it.  The Fashionista article was an observation, the NYT article was a notice and side eye. This time Gucci made it VERY plain. This was the final slap in the face.

I listen to NPR podcasts while I wash my hair and today I happened across an episode of Code Switch, entitled “Give It Up For DJ Blackface.” In the midst of my mind swirling about Gucci’s missteps, I found myself listening to stories of how the black and queer originators of house and EDM music were pushed aside when they genres reached “mainstream” success. But of course, not without some aggressive borrowing of symbols and even names. So of course by the end of this podcast, my blood was positively BOILING.

Then, I listened to Jonathan Capehart’s Cape Up Podcast with Jesse Williams, who perfectly articulated everything I felt about appropriation. “Black language is ghettoized until it’s appropriated.” And you can swap language out for any number of things, including fashion and music. It’s as if we don’t count to the world until white people validate our concepts, and that is JUST not true. We create and they appropriate and profit. It fucking sucks. And I’m over it. In short. Dear Gucci: Run Dan His Money.

Bougie Shit: Episode 40

This week we have an honest conversation about our struggles with anxiety, aided by Housewives of Potomac. We skate on over to Cabo, for Invite Only drama, and close the show with Basketball Wives


So bitch. It’s Lit. That’s all.

I know we’ve mentioned her before, but H.E.R. – Really the whole project but that Jungle / Pigment roundoff… my God. It was the loop that got me through a very rough Thursday and Friday.

Lastly, I live in Miami, home to Revolt Music Conference. I’ve always lived the conference vicariously through some of my favs on social media, like Claire of Fashion Bomb Daily. The panels each year SOUND amazing, but I could never justify the costs, since I don’t want to work in the industry. Recently, while perusing my U-Verse app, I discovered that they run the panels on the Revolt TV channel. They run them at odd hours, primarily in the middle of the night. So, I record them and peruse them for gems in my downtime. Highly suggest you do the same.

Women In Social Media Panel. Photo: Fashion Bomb Daily

(Can we discuss how sick Cardi B. looks in Gucci. ugh. so GOOD)

Share your thoughts below! Enjoy your week.

Bougie Shit: Episode 39

Are you inviting ALL your good friends on vacay with you? We say no, followed by HELL no, and invite only is going prove why mixing friend groups is a horrible idea. We also chat about marriage when your partner has been divorced, in some cases more than once. Is marriage even necessary?


Missy Elliot for Elle in Marc Jacobs. So good to see Missy getting her due.

Designer Recho Omondi is unapologetic in this episode of the Naked Beauty Podcast. Loved it.

Share your comments below. Be well!

Bougie Shit: Episode 37

This week, with guest Amber J,  we delve into the flipside of the Tami / Evelyn drama on Basketball wives, interracial dating, inspired by a blood boiling episode of “With Friends Like These,” and Shea Moisture.


I was listening to an episode of Identity Politics about Muslims in the Media. One of the guests brought up Yuna I thought “wait Yuna…. wait I’ve never seen her hair.” My dumb ass just thought she wore dope hair wraps. 😭😭😭 Of course that sent me down a google rabbit hole, through which I concluded Yuna is dope as hell. Her style is so sick. I also played some of my favs, including “Crush,” featuring Usher. Her last album was great and her first album was that vibey thing I love.

My guy Obama is out here cashing checks and looking like a bag of money and the whites WILL deal. Trevor summed it up PERFECTLY.

AND of course there’s Jade – last week’s episode of Jade and XD is absolutely hilarious. Listen Here.

We Out Here! Have a beautiful week.

Bougie Shit: Episode 34

This week has been a fucking mess with white people’s president INTERRUPTING SCANDAL, to tell us he struck Syria with 59 MISSILES and such. *says a prayer that we don’t end up in WW3 because of this idiot.* Nevertheless, we’re talking Housewives of Potomac and Atlanta this week, along with Greenleaf inspired family drama.

Paisley Outake: 

SDV and I are both from 757. So, Pharrell is like a hometown fav. And this video is PERFECTION.

Bye for now…